“If I had known then what I know now” is the constant refrain of women going through the courts system where they frequently experience injustice in the family courts. Entering courts as victims of horrendously damaging intimate abuse, they commonly face charges of malicious allegations of abuse, questioning by experts who are of the opinion (opinion is not law) that two parents are better than one, despite one being an abuser. Is it best legal advice to tell women to stay quiet about the abuse they and their children have suffered and agree to shared parenting as that will probably be the best you can hope to achieve? Or to say nothing in the family courts about ongoing devastating sexual violence for fear your children will be removed and given to the perpetrator and your contact as a mother will now be supervised? There is no limit to the number of applications an abuser can make in court. Tragically for women, these scenarios are all too familiar.
Ann (not her real name)