Coercive control is a form of domestic abuse. It is easy to miss, or If we focus on the sexual and physical abuse we miss 98% of the Coercive Control. We all know women we used to know, where have they gone to? We hear stories of unhappy marriages, why doesn’t she leave? Leaving is the most dangerous time of all and if there are children then the state will never let you leave. So she just disappears and if she fights back or refuses to waste away quietly, well then she is mad or bad. So how does Coercive Control work? Any way he wants it to. Society is built to support it because we live in a coercive society that relies on secrecy and adversarial justice. Let’s make sure our stories are heard.